One thing we should know is that on the issue of failed love, relationship and marriages gender has nothing to do with it, rather it is of the personalities of individuals. Love isn’t gender based, that we have so many failed love, relationships and marriages isn’t because we love someone but because we failed to access the personalities of the individual around us. Please access, compare and contrast the personalities of the people around you or your intending spouse.
we should understand the concept of individual difference when addressing the issue of failed marriages in our society.
Often times, we have heard women saying all men are terrible, all men are cheats, liars, decievers etc. Like wise have heard men complaining all women are materialistic, nags, dirty etc. Hmmm, we should know and I am sure we have heard not all men cheats and not all women nags.
When it comes to love and relationships, it is important we carry out a personality check up on our intending spouse, we know a lot of people pretend, or manipulative, but we can run a personality check through;
- Their words and actions
- The way they treat others close to them and how they treat you
- Their friends and company
- Through their beliefs system
- Through Family/ up bringing
Love isn’t enough to sustain a relationship between two people, especially if it is one-sided, you are gonna choke. That an individual is a nag, cheat, liar, thief or manipulative doesn’t make your love for them or even their love for you to automatically change them. Nahhh….it doesn’t work that way.
We agreed and know that change is constant, yes oh, it is constant but then it’s duration of consistency varies from individual to individual. Besides, change comes from the inside.
Not until a person decided to change, or understand within themselves the need to change, you can’t do anything to make them different or change.
Please, watch out for the personalities of the people, friends and partner around you, for your own sanity. One of the reasons we have a lot of mentally, emotionally and even financially depressed people in our society today, is because many people failed to evaluate or turn a blind eye to the personalities of the people around them to the advancement of the priorities. It is important we protect our mental health and one of the ways to that is to be careful of the personalities we allowed into our lives.
